I am currently reading a book called, "The Cure: The Divine Prescription for the Body of Christ--Life-Changing Love" by Harry Kraus MD. So far, it is a great read. This great quote from Dallas Willard was in it:
"At first, what exactly is love? It is will to good or 'bene-volence'. We love something or someone when we promote its good for its own sake. Love's contrary is malice, and its absence is indifference. It's normal accompaniment is delight, but a twisted soul may delight in evil and take no pleasure in good. Love is not the same thing as desire, for I may desire something without even wishing it well, much less willing its good. I might desire a chocolate ice cream cone, for example, but I do not wish I well; I wish to eat it. This is the difference between lust (mere desire) and love, as between a man and woman. Desire and love are, of course, compatible when desire is ruled by love; but most people today would, unfortunately, not even know the difference between them. Hence, in our world, love constantly falls prey to lust. That is a major part of the deep sickness of contemporary life. By contrast, what characterizes the deepest evidence of God is love--that is, will to good." Dallas Willard, "Renovation of the Heart: Putting on the Character of Christ pp.130-131.